A Cycle That Ends

Divorce is a cycle that has an end. What am I saying? First, there is the presence of problems. Problems cause fights and fights may lead to further damage towards the relationship, it may lead to distance. Next, the person files a divorce case to a lawyer. This is when a person is quite sure that he or she will leave his or her spouse and head on to this so called “better” life. Next, there is a presence of negotiation, meaning signing or a paper, which of them gets the custody of the kids, and the like. In other words, it is a financial settlement. Lastly, is living the divorced life, alone and single. The Distance makes the heart grow fonder-- As cliché as it may sound, it does not necessarily apply to certain issues or situations in life. Some people make divorce as a part of their lives, while some people make divorce an option to every marriage they have, thus, their hearts, upon being in the stage of separation, does not grow fonder. Divorce has been there ever since people have discovered a way to possibly “fix” their marital problems. It may sound pretty legitimate but morally speaking, it is not the righteous way to fix problems such as misunderstanding between man and wife or the presence of a “third party”. As it was explained in my previous post, divorce is the legal separation of man and wife under the law. It may, one day, occur to them that they have made a mistake and it’s not easy to live a healthy marriage but there’s nothing to lose if you try. I am talking about regrets, some couples get into divorce so abruptly but they end up regretting what they did. I honestly believe that even though this is a cycle that never ends, this cycle should not be a part of the law of the Philippines. Since this is a Catholic country, people should respect their religion and they should stand firm on their beliefs. In a way I am against it, but I am pro-choice. If a married couple chooses to divorce, there must be a specific and their intents must be reasonable. An example of a reasonable intent is when a husband beats up his wife. It is against women’s rights to be beaten up and it is a way of degrading a woman’s morality. Next is if there is a presence of a third party. It is against the will of God to commit adultery and it is not acceptable in the Catholic religion. Divorce is not obliged but it is pro-choice. It is up to the couple whether or not they will go through divorce or stay married and fix things.

Upon writing this entry, I noticed that I kept on coming back to morality. Morality is what was instilled to me ever since I was a little girl. I grew up in a Catholic society and everything is all about God, being faithful and being forgiving. I learned to accept this and I learned as I grew up to reject divorce, abortion and such that are solely against God’s will. Maybe it depends on people if they believe divorce will make this country a better place to live in. Each and every one of us has his or her own perception towards different humanly issues such as divorce.